Many single daters will have feelings that are bad and that leave you feeling down hearted and uninspired. Life is not always fair and can be pretty grim at times. There is a lot of bad news around at the moment and this means that our naturally positive outlook can take a bashing.

As a forty-plus single I have recently gone through a learning curve that has left me shaken and feeling vulnerable. I have always consider myself to be pretty savvy and have pride myself in recognising a scam when I see it. I put the phone down quickly when people start asking about surveys and telling me I miss an Amazon collection and click on this link. I am not stupid.However I recently received a message which was apparently from my daughter, so my mothering care kicked in and I was completely taken in by the fact that at that point she needed help and could I pay an account for her. 

I have a book that had daily readings that I often dip into when I need encouragement. The reading for today was honest in the fact it said we could expect problems as we live in a world that is filled with problems. So far not encouraging but at least truthful. John 16:33

After the last few years we have gone through a lot. A pandemic, financial challenges, personal challenges to name just a few.

We all have a wish list when it comes to dating on 121dates.com so you need to be firm on your requirements. Be sure what you are looking for before you start your search so that you have your goals set out and you know what you are looking for in a dating relationship and avoid settling. One quality everyone looks for is kindness and not just when you first set out at the start of the relationship but even after several months. The way your date speaks to waiting or bar staff or reacts in traffic. How he speaks to you after a hard day at work could be a red flag as there will be...

As a Christian dater I have the confidence to know that I always have the Lord before me. I listen to the Holy Spirit so if I feel uncomfortable then I know that I have missed the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit and I need to consider my choices. Verse: Psalm 16:8. ‘I have set the LORD always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.’ What we focus on becomes our reality. Dating online can be a challenge at times but knowing that you have the confidence of being in step with the Lord.