It’s Friday night and you are going on a first date with someone you met on 121dates.com You are virtual strangers although you have spoken on the phone and you made each other laugh,but you don’t have any friends in common but you seem to have a cross over with some interests. You seem to be mutually attractive and so you thought ok let’s try and give this a go and agreed to have a meet up. You’re in a dimly lit bar and trying to figure out how you feel about her. She’s made a few jokes that are in bad taste and seem to be jokes that show men in a bad light. She is very forward almost showing off and so far that made you feel a little weird and you are not really enjoying yourself because she seems to be over bearing.
As she puts her hand on your knee you remember a story you’d heard recently about a man on a date who was attacked. You take a sip of your drink and fake a smile but you feel uncomfortable and feel that you are being rushed during this date. It seems as though she is expecting more than you are prepared to give at the moment, after all it is only the first date. You tell her you have to go to the washroom, stand up, and head for the door, walking quickly just in case, she decides to check on you and sees you leaving and catches you in the street.
I guess you will have realised by now that this isn’t a real scenario for a man on a date and is just an illustration of how a woman on date might feel with a man who is pushy and has an intimidating attitude. You have the right to enforce your boundaries when you are on a date and should not be pressurised into doing something that you do not feel comfortable with. It is a case of exploring what it’s like to be a woman on a date with a man who doesn’t behave in a respectful manner on a date. One of the biggest turn offs for women on a date is men who show them no respect as a person. If your date has no manners or is disrespectful leave with your head held high. We live in an era where men can no longer misbehave and expect to get away with it.
