Good chemistry and the excitement of a mutual attraction and passion can help your relationship sustain itself through the initial dating phase while you and your date get to know more about each other on 121dates.com. The excitement of it all can help you overcome your ambivalence about starting a new relationship and all that entails, including introducing your new partner to your friends and family and may even help you both to open up, to share your inner thoughts and even be more generous with your time and your possessions than you might otherwise be with this new date who is, in actuality, still very new in your life and somewhat of a stranger.
However focusing too much on the excitement of the chemistry and the physical attraction with your new love interest can mean that you are rushing into things and may be ignoring the reality that true love grows slowly and getting to know someone can take time so that a friendship can eventually become a life partnership. Meaning, if you’re not feeling that lightning-strike connection, with a new date on 121dates.com it doesn’t necessarily mean you could never grow to love them.
Love at first sight seems to be one of the common ideas and requirements that daters feel is the start of any dating relationship and romance and it forms the basis for fairy tales and song lyrics, detailing that sudden emotion that fills your heart after seeing someone for the first time. This is reinforced by the fast moving pace in which we live where we feel that we must hit the ground running. We feel that we have to have an instant attraction and a complete knowledge that this is the one for us and nothing else will do. These ideas are heavily promoted in movies and song lyrics but it often is not the case in real life. Lust and love are two very different emotions. The more you get to know each other, the less exciting a purely physical attraction is; with love, the converse is true.
An intense chemistry or lust can cloud your judgement and can cause you to make excuses for bad behaviour, even infidelity and lack of honesty and respect. Sometimes lust can result in emotional and physical abuse as we can associate the lustful passion with a fairy tale ending that everything is acceptable and it will all turn out well in the end, which is not always the case unfortunately. So get to know your 121date well and take your time to appreciate the romance before the lust when making a commitment.
