For a loving relationship to flourish and be honest and real it must be grounded in reality and an accurate perception of each senior dating partner, not fantasy, fairy tale or illusion. Love fuelled by a projection of a saint-like idealisation of a dater on a pedestal is bound to dwindle once real life starts to take over and the image of perfection disintegrates and the real person, with flaws, is left in its place. Sustained only by fantasy of fairy tale happy ever after illusion, love that idealises the beloved is void of rationality.
In a relationship love must be consistent with your beliefs, desires and emotions and not be inconsistent with the reality of what is actually happening around you and in your day to day life. The love part of love-hate relationships is an example of love that illustrates this type of unrealistic and irrational emotional see saw. To love the dating partner in your life is to have a strong desire to promote their interests and to encourage them to do well, to support and encourage the very important other person in your life. When you hate someone, you don’t want to promote their interests, and probably want to impede them and in fact enjoy breaking them down to make yourself feel and look better. Simultaneously loving and hating someone thus breeds internal inconsistency, or what is also known as ‘cognitive dissonance’. It’s a kind of defence mechanism, where you often suppress your hatred to avoid the uncomfortable realisation that your relationship is dysfunctional.
Senior daters, or seniors who have been in a love hate relationship often build up walls around themselves as a form of self preservation and this creates barriers to love and honesty in any relationship. These internal contradictions and conflicts within yourself, become natural efforts to suppress your own anger and hatred. A feeling of unnatural calm descends on a relationship in an effort to maintain peace and a feeling of delusion.
Senior daters overlook obvious faults of character and personality. We put up with bad manners and rude behaviour, even violence. Alas, we sometimes refuse to acknowledge that the fairy tale crazy love is just that a fairy tale and that is why we need to maintain a rational practical head when it comes to dating on 121seniordates.com. Consider carefully if the senior date that you are seeing has swept you off your feet with a fantasy and do not be carried along with a romantic vision that true love will win no matter what your seconds thoughts are telling you. If your senior date acts unpredictably, creating uncertainty about where you stand, then you need to head warnings and proceed with caution or even take a break and reconsider where the relationship is going and if it is the best place for you to be. Think rationally about love and romance when you meet the dater of your dreams on 121seniordating.com to find lasting happiness.
